You Know What to Do—Here’s Why You’re Still Not Doing It

You’ve tried everything. Here is what is missing. You’ve read the books. You’ve done the workshops. You’ve journaled, reflected, meditated, maybe even colour-coded your goals. You know  what to do. You know the habits that would help. You’ve gained insight after insight. And still… you’re stuck. You’re not lazy, unmotivated, or broken. You’ve just been trying to create deep change with tools designed for the surface.
If you're an empath looking for a more grounded path to transformation, explor e this step-by-step plan using hypnosis . The Self-Help Loop: When Insight Becomes Overwhelm For thoughtful, self-aware people, this is the trap: you gather all the insight, all the language, all the tools… and then wonder why your life still feels the same. You know  better—so why can’t you do  better? The truth is, most self-help works on the conscious mind. That’s the part of you that analyzes, reasons, and sets goals. And it’s powerful—but it’s not where the real shifts happen. The patterns that keep you stuck - the fear that creeps in when you get too close to what you actually want, the procrastination, the people-pleasing, the inner critic - come from the depths of your subconscious. Want to dive deeper into hypnosis? Explore our comprehensive course options here . The Shame of “I Should Know Better” What makes this even harder is the shame that comes with it. When you’ve spent years reading, reflecting, and doing “the work,” it can feel especially  painful to still be stuck. You might start to believe things like: “I must be doing it wrong.” “Everyone else seems to be figuring it out but me.” “If I know better and I’m still not changing, maybe I never will.” This kind of shame is quiet, but heavy. And it can make you doubt not just your efforts—but yourself. Here’s what’s really going on: Struggling to change doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human. You’ve been trying to override deep, protective patterns using only insight and willpower. Of course, that hasn’t worked the way you hoped. Of course, it feels exhausting. This doesn’t mean you’re broken. It just means it’s time for a more compassionate and comprehensive approach—one that honours all  of you, not just the logical part. A Real Story: Helping Others, But Struggling in Silence One of my clients—a brilliant life coach and yoga instructor—first came to me in tears. On the outside, she appeared to be grounded, wise and calm. Behind the scenes, she was struggling with emotional eating, chronic stress, and a deep sense of guilt and shame. The voice inside her kept gnawing at her:  “How can I help other people if I can’t get my life under control?”  She felt like a fraud. She was simply a human trying to push through old patterns with every tool she had. Through hypnosis, she experienced genuinely forgiving and letting go of her past. She was also able to build healthy ways to move through her emotions. This gave her the opportunity to discover that she no longer needed to resort to numbing her feelings and distracting herself with emotional eating. She began to feel safe enough that she could let go of the need to control everything around her. Learning hypnosis helped her bring a sense of self-acceptance, curiosity and grace to her life. Your Subconscious: The Hidden Driver Think of your mind like an iceberg: the conscious part is just the tip. The rest—the beliefs, identity, early experiences, protective instincts—live deep in the subconscious. And here’s the thing: your subconscious isn’t trying to sabotage you. It’s trying to protect you, based on old programming. If you learned as a kid that being quiet kept you safe, being noticed might feel terrifying now. If success were tied to burnout or chaos, your system may be hitting the brakes every time things start going well. If failure once brought shame, you may never let yourself fully go for it. You’re not stuck because you don’t want change. You’re stuck because part of you thinks change isn’t safe. Why Hypnosis Works (When Nothing Else Does) This is where hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis helps you connect with the part of your mind that actually drives your behaviour. Hypnosis creates a relaxed state where the usual mental chatter and inner critic quiet down. And in that space, you can update the old beliefs and routines running in the background. Not just by thinking differently , but by experiencing the world differentl y. This helps you offer your subconscious mind a more useful way to perceive your relationship to the world around you. It’s not about forcing yourself into change. It ’s about discovering  that it’s safe to change. The Neuroscience of Hypnosis: Rewiring From the Inside Out What’s happening in your brain during hypnosis is more than just relaxation—it’s a shift in how your mind is operating. When you're in a hypnotic state, your brain enters a slower wave pattern—typically theta, the same state you experience just before falling asleep or during deep meditation. In this state, the critical, analytical part of your mind softens, and your brain becomes more receptive to suggestion, visualization, and emotional processing. But here’s the really exciting part: you’re not just thinking differently—you’re actually changing your brain. Hypnosis can help: Strengthen new neural pathways by mentally rehearsing new habits or responses in a deeply focused state Soften the grip of old patterns that were wired through repetition or emotional intensity Reduce stress chemistry (like cortisol) and increase feel-good neurochemicals (like serotonin and dopamine), which support emotional regulation and healing In short: you’re using your mind to change your brain—and that brain change makes it easier to think, feel, and act in new ways. This is how hypnosis helps you truly change. Hypnosis bridges the gap between what you know and want , and what you do .  A New Way In So if you’ve been stuck in the loop of “I know better, but I can’t seem to do better,” you’re not alone. And it’s not because you need another strategy. It’s because you’ve been trying to shift the whole iceberg by pushing on the tip. It doesn’t have to be that hard. When you work with your subconscious—gently, safely, intentionally—change begins to feel less like a battle, and more like a return to yourself. You don’t need more willpower. You need a new way in. And that’s exactly what hypnosis offers. Ready to Explore What’s Possible with Hypnosis Training? If this resonated with you, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. If you’re curious about how hypnosis might help you shift a pattern, soften inner resistance, or simply make space for something new… please reach out. You can schedule a free hypnosis training consultation . At this time, we will explore what you want and need, and determine if hypnosis training is a good fit for you.